Monday, July 7, 2008

Jealousy....cont'd

I can now talk sensibly, yesterday I was angry, and spewing profanity...ever since I have become pregnant, my husband's older sister has had an issue with me. She was in town this weekend....I went above and beyond to make her comfy at our home, I ran out an bought a really nice comforter in her favorite color, made sure we had fun filled days....speaking of which, we spent the 4th on the Washington Mall...b/c she DRUG us out there, mind you, I was JUST in the hospital...and I am suppose to stay WELL hydrated....and "take it easy". Well....my sister in-law could not "understand" that concept apparently. I told my hubby I was getting tired, and needed a break and she had the nerve to get an attitude; she then she goes into this rant (with my husband...I wasn't privy to this part of her bickering and that's a good thing, cause I would have done the "fool"_ that she didn't understand why I couldn't continue walking, she has "other" pregnant friends that walk for long amounts of time. Ok - first of all...I'm in damn good shape for a pregnant lady, or non-pregnant lady, I was running until month 5....so being able to hang doesn't have anything to do with it, it's more a case of getting our baby, and HER nephew here safe. You would think that someone her age...she's 38 would understand that, but no dice, I'm convinced that she is "jealous"...green with envy. You see, she's single, no kids, living in a big city....with no prospects that are worthy to speak of...my whole thing is, there are lots of very happy single non-DISGRUNTLED women out there, I was one...for a long time. Anyway, I don't get the jealously thing, I do not understand her anger, and I'm now at a point where I don't want to see or speak to her EVER again. I think too...that because her mom has been so excited about my being pregnant, it's also disturbing to her, we are having the first grandchild in her family.....has anyone experienced this before....what's a girl to do....jeez.

4 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

JUST LET HER GO THROUGH THE MOTIONS. MAYBE THE EMBARRASMENT OF HOW SHE BEHAVED THIS WEEKEND WILL PROBE HER TO DIG DEEP WITHIN HERSELF TO MAKE SOME PERSONAL ADJUSTMENTS IN HER OWN LIFE THAT WILL ENABLE HER TO OBTAIN THE LOVE & BEAUTY OF PREGNANCY THAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING. IT'S LIKE YOU SAID, THIS MAY NOT BE FOR EVERYONE AND IF SHE IS MEANT TO HAVE THIS LIFESTYLE SHE HAS TO BE PREPARED..OBVIOUSLY SHE IS NOT THERE YET. GOD WORKS IN HIS TIME.


phynxsun

July 7, 2008 at 10:33 AM  
Anonymous can someone introduce me to prince! said...

Great advice, shon. People (unfortunately especially women) are jealous by nature. They're will always be someone that is jealous of something someone else has that they don't have (even if they claim or think they don't want it). The best thing to do is separate yourself as much as possible from that person and their negative energy. I know its harder with family, but it can be done. Having a safe and healthy pregnancy is MUCH more important than hurting someone's feelings by not being around them.

July 8, 2008 at 11:09 AM  
Blogger BlackButterfly said...

Well i decided to take the high road...I didn't even delve into how heated the argument between us got, let's just say it didn't end nicely, I decided to send a note to her, basically stating "thanks for the visit, we know you will make a "wonderful" aunt, perhaps that will make her see that she can't cause issues between her brother and i and that she is just gon' have to suck it up and be a good aunty!!!

July 8, 2008 at 12:12 PM  
Anonymous Babs said...

That's sad. But a lot of women are like that. Jealous of whatever and try to rain on the parade. Even on the 4th of July!

July 11, 2008 at 9:12 AM  

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