Friday, May 30, 2008

I know where you are going to be tonight!

I can not wait to see Sex In The City, not to mention I'm heading to NYC today, aww the fun......I'm actually going for yet another WEDDING....folks....I hate Weddings...formals ones anyway, I would have much rather married my husband on a beach in the Islands, we still plan to have a renewal ceremony informal stylee....that formal crap is for the birds! Anyway, go Carrie, go Big, I can't WAIT!!!!! Bawchicawah wah...have a good weekend folks!!!

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Jane Fonda betta watch her back!

4.75 months and counting.....

Updated pics of BUDDA!!!!


Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Reasons why the DC Metro Area Sux in Comparison to Charlotte

For 400k you can get this in Charlotte NC:

For about the SAME amount you get this in Northern VA:

Tuesday, May 27, 2008


I've been on back soon

Monday, May 19, 2008


So this pass weekend I had a relative visit, he was here for business but we hung out a bit too. On Sunday, I pick him up from his the hotel after his check out, he plops down in my car and begins to tell me about his morning farewell meeting...

The morning meeting was full of fluffed power point presentations, the last one was by far the most memorable. My cousin proceeds to tell me that he was actually featured...check this. So this executive in the org, with whom my cousin had never met, gives a presentation, as part of this feature, he focuses on celebrity look-a-likes in the company.....I know you know what's coming.

He compares one of my cousin's coworkers to Joe Pesci...ok not so bad, and he compares my cousin, whom again he has never met.....or spoken with, on any level, to .......THE PREDATOR. Now mind you my cousin is one of two black guys in the company that has dreads....I suppose that's where he was going, to make matters WORST, he zooms in...yes ZOOMS in on my cousin's teeth, and zooms in on the predators teeth to poke further fun. The entire time my cousin is dumbfounded....hurt, and confused. He said he had absolutely no idea what to do, the room was full of awkward, nervous laughter. So now my cousin turns to me for advice, and honestly I can think of situations in Corporate America, where I've encountered ambiguous comments that made me uncomfortable, but this, this is different. I told him to think long and hard. I think if that were me, I would have to speak with HR....and find out next steps. What that guy did was wrong, but at the same time, he's an upper executive in the company, who can has way more leverage than my cousin. So he's in a catch 22, he likes the job, but was upset with the comparative analysis. I feel like it was dead wrong, but this guy is obviously stupid, and he won't change, some people just have no idea about what could possibly be perceived as racial discrimination, or just plain ole offensive behavior.

I think as a black person we are just different from any other race in terms of what we deal with on a daily basis, I will say that I think "middle eastern" people are being exposed for the first time (not counting the historical cast system in their own society) in America to how we might feel. We have in the past been compared to monkeys,apes, black face clowns with big red lips, the Aunt Jemima pics,I could go on and on, but that's something that the rest of the world should be mindful of, I know that some folks will read this and think oh no biggie, b/c they don't know how it feels. What say you, how would you handle this ....


Friday, May 16, 2008

Childhood Dreams

What is your most memorable dream as a child?

When I was about four, I remember dreaming of 3 white faces staring at me from above, they all had pale unnatural looking faces with black eyes like onyx rocks, it was the strangest thing. My mother stayed up with me in the kitchen and we drank what's yours?


First white valedictorian of Morehouse College - Pretty Cool

From CNN:

ATLANTA, Georgia (CNN) -- Joshua Packwood knows what it's like to be a minority.

"I always kind of gravitated to the black community," says Packwood who immediately fit in at Morehouse.
2 of 3 This weekend he'll be the first white valedictorian to graduate from the historically black, all male Morehouse College in the school's 141-year history.

Morehouse, in Atlanta, Georgia, is one the nation's most prestigious universities of its kind. For more than a century, the school has prided itself on personifying the dream of the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., one of the school's most notable alums, by producing "Morehouse Men" - intelligent and successful black leaders.

"Because I'm one of the only white students, it's easy to call me 'the white boy,' I'm naturally going to stand out," says Packwood.

But Packwood, 22, doesn't stand out solely because he is white or has maintained a 4.0 grade point average. For those who don't know him, what is surprising is that a Rhodes Scholar finalist turned down a full scholarship to Columbia University to attend the all-black men's university.

This came naturally to Packwood, who attended a predominantly black high school.

"A large majority of my friends, like all my girlfriends have been minorities," says Packwood. "So it was very, it was kind of strange that I always kind of gravitated to the black community."

Packwood fit in immediately at Morehouse. His charm, movie-star good looks and chiseled physique made him popular among students. He was elected dorm president and to class council during freshmen year - and was a favorite at campus fashion shows. White valedictorian makes history »

He also gained worldly experience studying and traveling abroad.

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Life hasn't always been easy for Packwood. He grew up in a poor area of Kansas City, Missouri, where he says he found himself gravitating to the black community at a young age.

Adolescence was rough. His mother's second marriage to a black man ended in divorce and family tension forced him to seek refuge with his best friend's family - who were black and middle-class.

The experience of living with his best friend's family had a profound effect on Packwood, who says he saw a "different side of black America."

During his teens, Packwood says he got into his share of fights and even landed in jail a few times. Still, his grades were good and eventually earned him a full scholarships to Morehouse College and Columbia University.

Against the advice of some family members, Packwood gave up the scholarship to an Ivy League school. He felt the true college experience was at Morehouse - where he believed he would get more than an education.

"I gained this interest in African-American studies and I thought that Morehouse would probably be the best experience," says Packwood. "I think of it in terms of 'study abroad.' If I really want to learn it, if I really want to understand it - maybe it's best if I immerse myself in the culture."

"Mr. Packwood is deserving. He has earned this," says Dr. Robert Franklin, the president of Morehouse. "We are committed to merit, to hard work - no matter who it might be."

For the most part, Packwood says the experience among his Morehouse brethren has been overwhelmingly good - with the exception of a few negative comments.

"One guy came up to me and told me -- he didn't like the fact that I was here," recalls Packwood. "He absolutely didn't like the fact that I dated black women."

"So I heard him out, and said, 'I appreciate your opinion but don't agree with what you have to say,'...and now we've become, not necessarily close, but very cool," Packwood says.

That student, Vinson Muhammad, says he was curious about the reasons why someone like Packwood would choose to attend an all-black college.

"I don't necessarily support him being here, but because he's here and we can't discriminate against other races, I support him and his mission to be successful in life," says Muhammad, a junior. "I just kind of wish he had done it at a different institution."

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Even though he received the support of school administrators, Packwood's scholastic success did not come without some controversy. When word got out that he might become the next valedictorian, some of his classmates - even friends - were admittedly chafed.

"They approached me and said, 'Yeah, I have a problem with you being valedictorian. I know you've earned it and even though I know you on a personal level - I like you a lot - but it disturbs me that out of roughly 3,000 black men - there's not one that's done as well as or better than you academically,' " says Packwood.

Still, the majority of students told CNN that he earned his accolades and they stand behind him. Some say, if anything, Packwood's academic success should serve as a lesson to his fellow students.

"I think that it should be a wake-up call to an all black campus," says Muhammad. "At Morehouse we're supposed to be at the top as black men. We only have a few white students and to see a white student will rise to this - is something unsettling to me because it shows that we need to work harder."

Campus administrators say that black or white, Packwood's experience is consistent with the school's mission: to produce future leaders.

"I think some of our alumni are a little nervous about a white student graduating from Morehouse with all of its rich history for producing African-American male leaders. But I don't think it's contradictory at all," says Sterling Hudson, the dean of admissions.

Overall, Packwood says his experience is the best proof of Morehouse success, because the school was able to produce a white valedictorian - against the odds. He's eager to quote the school's most notable alums.

"What Morehouse stands for at the end of the day, and what Dr. King epitomized, it's not about black or white, it's about the content of [a person's] character," says Packwood. "It's about me, representing Morehouse in that light -- not as a white man or a black man."

His experience was so positive that Packwood's younger brother, John, will follow in his footsteps when he enrolls as a freshman at the college next year.

Could this type of recruitment signal a new trend for Morehouse and other historically black colleges and universities?

"We're not aggressively pursuing white students," says Hudson. "But like every other college, we're interested in diversity. So, if a white student becomes interested in Morehouse - of course we are going to treat him like any other student."

For now, Packwood is enjoying his rise to the top. This week, he started his first job with the prestigious investment banking firm Goldman Sachs on Wall Street.

But he'll be back at Morehouse Sunday wearing his cap and gown along with the 500 members of his graduating class. Not as a white man or a black man - but as a Morehouse Man.

"The interesting thing about Josh's experience is that he had a full Morehouse experience," says Hudson. "When he marches across the stage on May 18 and receives his diploma, he's going to be a Morehouse Man in every way -- except ethnicity."

"I don't think ethnicity makes the difference; it's what's in his heart."
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I took some more pics for you guys....

Hi Again,

Well I had my hand on my head because mommy had this light all in my face; and some of the time I sucked my fingers...but shhhh! don't tell mommy, she won't like it! Anyway, the other pic is a lone pic of my "turtle".....:) that's what the lady at the ultrasound clinic called my privates....silly lady! I didn't want to put all my pics up cause wellI'm so cute I didn't want you guys to feel overwhelmed. Enjoy!

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

I am having a boy!

Today I found out I'm having a son, and I'm just elated...truly. If nothing else, just to see the look on my husband's face once he found out was good enough. He is so thrilled, now I can start buying up all sorts of baby boy stuff. Well folks this is going to be an exciting time in my life!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Where is this child's mother?

I gots flutters

In my tummy, I have butterflies all day now, I can feel this kid doing the cha-cha slide in my belly....slide to left, now slide to the right....bring it back!!!

Monday, May 12, 2008


Oh this very moment I'm craving a Pretzel Dog slathered in mustard. Great, the fun begins. This is better than eating whole lemons I suppose. Unfortunately I'm at work and all I have at my disposal are roasted sunflower seeds....

What is your biggest pet peeve?

I hate tardiness...seriously. What's yours?

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Take a Bow

I love this song. I seriously love that hair cut.....

Monday, May 5, 2008

Pregnant Runners

For those of you who run, and will continue to run through pregnancy, I found a great blog :).

The Elements

...I live in Reston, a beautiful, scenic community. However, with the recent housing slump we've had all sorts of "elements" move into my new building to "rent". The Elements are all shapes, sizes and colors. Yesterday the one of the Element Clan decided to leave an entire piece of furniture booby-trapped in front on the trash door, and upon my opening the door to dispose of my trash, a huge piece of wood came sliding down like a ancient, barbaric, unsharpended guillentine. There I was with a hurt shoulder and toe from other debris that followed it's path. It barely missed my tummy (and I have a baby inside there) so I was enraged! So I wrote an open letter to the Elements in my building, it read as follows:

Dear Element(s):

Whoever the JACKASS was that left the huge piece of furniture and a broken wooded bed frame lodged up against the door you'll be happy to know that I damn near lost my entire shoulder trying to dispose of my trash. You inconsiderate @#$# please dispose of your trash properly, this type of trash is not suppose to be disposed in this method. Thank you!

Sunday, May 4, 2008

Boundaries of Love

So I'm watching this show on ABC, Brothers & Sisters and the guy on the show is "feeling (in like of)" his biological sister, anyway, he's explaining this to his gay brother....and the brother called him a I started pondering.

How can you defend homosexuality, or anything "so-called" non-traditional...and have feelings against "inbreeding" if the whole argument is based on the right to love whom you choose?

I guess I'm wondering how one could defend the concept of homosexuality and not also defend incest...because at the end of the day, it's all about the freedom to love whom you choose? How is this any different....

Friday, May 2, 2008

Freedom of expression

Ok so this BJ's employee was banned from parking in the lot because he has a truck that flies the confederate flag....what say you?

Thursday, May 1, 2008

I love my family :)